A Truth Universally (Un)Acknowledged: Ally McBeal, Bridget Jones's Diary and the Conflict between Romantic Love and FeminismJessica
Lyn Van Slooten © Elwood Watson 2006 |
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I used to watch Ally McBeal with glee. Here was a show that featured a young, professional woman whose romantic struggles were depicted with honesty and over-the-top hilarity. I would call my friends outside the academy and we would laugh at how our own searches for romantic love were not that different from Ally's. Talking about the show with my female colleagues in the English Department, I met with a vastly different response: "I can't believe you like that show —it's so anti-feminist." I started approaching the show and my own life with a great deal of skepticism, because, after all, I wanted to be a "good feminist." My viewing of Ally McBeal waxed and waned along with my ambivalence about the issues of feminism and romantic love. I feared that the two were not compatible after all. I had a similar experience when I first read Helen Fielding's novels Bridget Jones's Diary and Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason and later saw the film adaptation. I realized that there was a greater issue at stake than my apparent affinity for pop-feminist texts. My personal conflict regarding Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary illustrates the conflict between heterosexual romantic love and feminism present in both works. Both Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary are self-consciously aware of this conflict, and Ally's and Bridget's primary struggle, besides finding Mr. Right, is navigating the conflicts between the myths of both romantic love and feminism. As romance texts, Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary self-consciously critique and question the mythic and revolutionary place of romance in contemporary women's lives, ultimately proving that romance and feminism need not be mutually exclusive.
In this essay, I situate Ally McBeal and Bridget
Jones's Diary within the conflict between romantic love and feminism. The
first half of the paper will clearly delineate this conflict by considering
the texts' relationships to the romance genre and feminism. The second half of
the paper will concentrate on the texts themselves as productive sites of
inquiry, looking more closely at the conflicts raging within Ally and Bridget,
followed by a vision of "marriage" between romance and feminism.
Following Modleski's suggestion that the cultural analyst needs to include
herself to provide "a place for the feminist textual critic who
recognizes her commonality with other women," I draw on my own
relationship to Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary throughout
the essay (345). True Love Awaits: The Romance Genre I have always been drawn to romantic novels, movies,
and television programs. From Wuthering Heights to When Harry Met
Sally, romantic texts stir my imagination and heart. In writing this essay
I realized that during graduate school, I developed an academic skepticism of
romance, and especially popular romantic texts. Having been told on several
occasions that I am too sentimental, too soft, I cultivated a critical
exterior that scoffed at romance. Yet I remained a sentimental romantic on the
inside. My experience with Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary, as
well as my reading in feminist criticism pushed me to explore the conflicts
between these outer and inner attitudes both within myself and within these
texts. Ally and Bridget are my comrades, as they too search for romantic
heterosexual love in a culture with a barrage of conflicting messages. We are
romantics in the various senses of that word — imaginative, hopeful, dreamy,
and wistful. And we are critics too — comparing our worldly experience with
our ideals, and reacting accordingly. Both Ally McBeal and the Bridget Jones's
Diary texts can be located in the romance genre. Like many of the romances
that pioneering romance scholars Janice Radway and Ann Snitow studied, both
works are part of a "series." One of the benefits of the series
convention is the continuation of the story over a period of time; we can
witness the characters' continued escapades, and watch them evolve. Also, the
series format provides glimpses of the dailiness of Ally's and Bridget's
lives. This is achieved through both formats — the weekly television series
of Ally McBeal and the diary structure of Bridget Jones's Diary. Moreover,
the overarching plot structure of Bridget Jones's Diary echoes that of
Jane Austen's classic novel Pride and Prejudice, which many
consider the quintessential romance. Beyond structure, both Ally McBeal and
Bridget Jones's Diary are romances because the search for romantic love
suffuses the texts. While Radway and Snitow studied romance novels in the
1980s, serious feminist criticism has tended to shift away from romance as a
genre. As Barbara Ryan has noted, heterosexual romantic love does not bear the
political and politically correct weight of other feminist issues (465). For
many women, the romance genre best articulates their private everyday desires
and anxieties. Much of the highly publicized attention that Ally McBeal, and
to a lesser extent, Bridget Jones's Diary has received trivialized the
texts, focusing on Ally's short skirts, Calista Flockhart's weight, Bridget's
incompetencies, and actress Renée Zellweger's weight gain for the role of
Bridget rather than engaging with the real conflicts the show was addressing,
or failing to realize that these issues were inextricably linked to the larger
issues the texts explore. To fully uncover the texts' significance, these
conflicts or contradictions (in the romance genre) "must be
brought to bear in any attempt to understand the full complexity of women's
relation to culture" (Modleski "Feminism without Women," 344). Scholars debate the validity of romance, alternately proposing romance as a mythic construction or as a biological need. According to Willard Gaylin and Ethel Person, romance flourished with the increasing popularity of the novel during the nineteenth century into a "sentimental love religion" (XII). However, Susan Ostrov Weisser notes that "some anthropologists and other social scientists argue [that romance] is possibly a cultural universal or part of our biological inheritance" (4). While the origins of romance remain debatable, the results of romance are clear. Weisser rightly states that "romance bears a good deal of weight, some of it laden with tangles of meaning difficult to separate and see clearly" (3). In creating ideal worlds, relationships, and characters, romance has the potential to transform the world as we know it, or at least the lives of the women who read or watch its texts. On the other hand, the escapist quality of the genre remains one of its most attractive features. These works promise to deliver a world where a happy ending is of utmost importance, a world we can escape into. Radway explains: Despite
such internal variation within the genre, however, all popular romantic
fiction originates in the failure of patriarchal culture to satisfy its female
members. Consequently, the romance functions always as a utopian
wish-fulfillment fantasy through which women try to imagine themselves as they
often are not in day-to-day existence, that is, as happy and content [Reading
the Romance, 151]. Romance will necessarily never fully reflect reality;
instead, it lies somewhere between fantasy and reality. The popular press seems torn about whether Ally and
Bridget bespeak realism or fantasy. Characters like Ally and Bridget are
realistic in their embodiment of the struggles, anxieties, desires, and
ambitions of "real life" women. Yet they remain fictional creations
of David E. Kelley and Helen Fielding. As such, they are not bound by the same
reality as real life women. Hence, the characters can experience alternate
world and extreme adventures, experiences not bound by reality. The
fictional characters embody the range of fantasies and nightmares of real life
women; readers and viewers can then safely play out their own conflicts
through these fictional characters. To critique Ally and Bridget for being
unrealistic is to simply overlook this complex relationship between reality
and fantasy at the heart of the romance genre. Radway sees romances as "compensatory fiction
because the act of reading them fulfills certain basic psychological needs for
women that have been induced by the culture and its social structures but that
often remain unmet in day-to-day existence as the result of concomitant
restrictions on female activity" (Reading the Romance, 112-113).
Romance, then, would seem to exist because current social systems do not meet
women's needs. Ironically, however, this very system also creates those needs,
if one follows Radway's reasoning, making romance a cultural construct. The
cross-cultural proliferation of romance suggests that the romantic impulse is
part of the human desire for the connection and validation that come through
love. Romance is the stylized trappings of that deeper need for love. And when
those needs are unmet, romance texts offer consolation. They can also be a way
for women temporarily to meet those needs while not settling for a love less
than what they truly desire. Ally and Bridget would attest to this fact. Both
women have rich imaginations, where they create scenarios or visions to
express their unmet yearnings. The infamous dancing baby of Ally McBeal and
Bridget's daydreams about her wedding to Daniel Cleaver are two key examples.
Both women also turn to other outlets to fulfill their needs. For part of the
show, Ally sleeps with an inflatable doll; Bridget turns briefly to vodka and
Chaka Khan in the face of her break-up with Daniel Cleaver. While these may
not be the most psychologically healthy avenues, Ally and Bridget are adept at
using their romantic energy to assuage their feelings of loneliness. The search for romance motivates Ally and Bridget. Both already have careers, friends, and successful lives by conventional standards, yet they seem particularly troubled in the arena of love. Veronica Chambers writes that "like Ally, many of the women who watch the show find that romance is much more elusive than professional success." With their professional lives more or less in control, both women then focus their attention on romantic relationships. However, Ally and Bridget both, despite their various romantic entanglements, want more out of a committed relationship than what is offered by most of the men they encounter. Ally's numerous but brief relationships attest to this fact, as does Bridget's final conversation with Daniel Cleaver in the film: DANIEL: If I can't make it with you,
I can't make it with anyone. BRIDGET: That's not a good
enough offer for me. [She pauses.] I'm not willing to gamble my whole life on
someone who's well, not quite sure. It's like you said, I'm still looking for
something more extraordinary than that. Both Ally and Bridget want an extraordinary man who
will be their equal and their "top person." Despite dating numerous
men and even pursuing relationships with them, Ally and Bridget ultimately
refuse to settle for men who do not embody the right characteristics. Ally's
attractions to the man she rear ends at a stoplight, a new young, attractive
co-worker, and even her closest and equally eccentric friend John Cage don't
last because these men's quirks do not match Ally's and ultimately, the spark
of attraction dissipates. Women of my generation, like Ally and Bridget,
have been raised to demand equality and exceptionality, and some of us refuse
to settle until we find our Mr. Darcy. "Independent Women": Feminist
Critiques of Romantic Love
As a Generation X feminist, I find myself, in Kathleen
Newman's assessment: "Torn between the more radical, bra-burning feminism
of our mothers' generation and the sassy 'girl power' rebellion of our younger
sisters, we are faced with the problem of reclaiming feminism for
ourselves" (320). I take my feminism personally and seriously, and want
my choices to match my philosophy. Yet when that philosophy is confused by
contradictory messages and desires, my personal life becomes as chaotic and
messy as Ally's and Bridget's lives. I find myself carefully weighing my
decisions (both romantic and otherwise) against the various "isms" I
identify with. This becomes particularly volatile in the arena of romance. As
a self-avowed romantic, am I betraying feminism's key goals every time I
daydream about my elusive Mr. Darcy? One significant problem in many feminist responses to
romance is the disjunction between academic feminism's ideology and the lived
realities of most women. In the 1970s while feminists like Kate Millet,
Ti-Grace Atkinson, and Shulamith Firestone strongly critiqued heterosexual
love and romance, the romance novel business was booming, according to romance
critics Radway and Modleski. This disjunction between the academic and popular
response to romance persisted and became particularly heated with the debut of
Ally McBeal in 1997. The June 29, 1998, Time cover story on the
death of feminism featured a photo of Calista Flockhart-Ally McBeal alongside
feminist icons Gloria Steinem, Susan B. Anthony, and Betty Friedan,
implicating Ally in feminism's purported demise. The media uproar was focused
on whether or not Ally McBeal's particular brand of "feminine
appeal" symbolized the transformation of a feminism concerned with the
oppression of women into an apolitical and frivolous movement. In
one of the accompanying articles, a transcribed discussion between academic
feminist Phyllis Chesler and journalist Gina Bellafante typifies a hostile
attitude towards the show: bellafante: I think feminism worked
long and hard to erase stereotypes of women as neurotic incompetents
unconcerned with matters of public life, Ally McBeal, in my humble opinion, is
helping undue that work. chesler: I agree.... And I would
say that if Monica Lewinsky goes to law school and continues to behave in the
same fashion, she will turn into Ally McBeal — obsessed with men and sex and
love and short skirts, and not with children being beaten to death in their
own homes and not with women losing child support. These are not Ally McBeaPs
fantasy concerns. Chesler and Bellafante's conversation illustrates a
prevailing critique of Ally McBeal, which dismisses the show, basically
for being a romantic comedy and not a serious legal drama series. Moreover,
Chesler and Bellafante suggest that women's fantasy concerns should be
serious political matters to be considered feminist. This discussion also
connects to the contemporary political question of women like Monica Lewinsky
using their sex appeal to connect with powerful men, as well as powerful men's
use of their political influence to engage women sexually. Ally McBeal and
Bridget Jones's Diary arguably touch on these "deeper"
political issues via the world of comic fantasy, urging readers to think of
the greater implications of short skirts in the workplace. Academic feminism, of course, continued to flourish
despite the media's pronouncements of its demise.3 The 1990s saw
the publication of a string of texts that discussed the "betrayals"
of feminism and the creation of a culture where academic feminisms were being
challenged by popular, conservative texts that sought to prove the emptiness
of feminism's promises. In Backlash, Susan Faludi dispels these
popular myths: "These so-called female crises have had their origins not
in the actual conditions of women's lives but rather in a closed system that
starts and ends in the media, popular culture, and advertising —an endless
feedback loop that perpetuates and exaggerates its own false images of
womanhood" (XV). Faludi sees the messages in popular texts as promoting
myths that undermine and blame feminism for women's ailments when in fact
these symptoms are fabricated by alarmists. The popular media undermines
feminism by preying on women's fears and uncertainties about love, marriage,
and independence. Yet, as Heywood suggests, feminist criticisms, like
Faludi's, can also backfire, creating their own backlash: "[Feminist
criticisms] may even exasperate Ally's fans so much that they create a kind of
antifeminist backlash" (B9). Because so many women identify with Ally's
and Bridget's anxieties, the failure to take these fictional characters
seriously is a failure to take real women's similar anxieties seriously. Despite the validity of Faludi's powerful critique of
the popular media, she fails to take into account the reality of these fears
for many women. Women do face conflict when cultural expectations clash with
feminist ideologies, and the media often does insidiously exploit these
fears. Popular texts like Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary provide
dialogue between cultural myths and expectations and feminist ideologies. They
also illustrate the effects of these often contradictory messages on women.
Fielding even alludes to Backlash in the novel Bridget Jones's
Diary, in the first awkward conversation between Bridget and Mark Darcy: "I.
Um. Are you reading any, ah ... Have you read any good books lately?" he
said... I
racked my brain frantically to think when I last read a proper book... I'm
halfway through Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which Jude
lent me, but I didn't think Mark Darcy, though clearly odd, was ready to
accept himself as a Martian quite yet. Then I had a brainwave. "Backlash,
actually, by Susan Faludi," I said triumphantly. Hah! I haven't
exactly read it as such, but feel I have as Sharon has been ranting about it
so much. Anyway, completely safe option as no way a diamond-pattern-jumpered
goody-goody would have read five-hundred-page feminist treatise. "Ah.
Really?" he said. "I read that when it first came out. Didn't you
find there was rather a lot of special pleading?" [13]. This self-referentiality to a key feminist text like Backlash
clearly places the novel in dialogue with feminism's ideas. It also
illustrates several significant points: first, that Mark Darcy is well-read,
open to feminist ideas, and would make a suitable boyfriend for Bridget
because he is ostensibly not misogynistic; and second, Mark's critique of the
Faludi text allows Fielding to include her own subtle critique of Faludi's
message. Ironically, Bridget hasn't read Backlash, because doing so
would invalidate or trivialize many of her concerns about love, marriage, and
companionship. Reading this text might help Bridget dispel her neuroses, and
channel her energy into the meaningful tasks at work. However, Faludi's text
could just as well alienate a woman like Bridget, whose concerns are, to her
at least, immensely valid. Instead, Bridget reads John Gray's problematic
bestseller, which will confirm her fears but also give her outdated,
stereotypical, prescriptive relationship advice that will eventually lead her
astray. This interchange between Bridget and Mark may seem to undermine
feminism's goals; however, Fielding engages the conflicting messages about
gender and romance via a humorous and realistic situation. Fielding subtly
takes feminism (Faludi) to task for dismissing Bridget's concerns and driving
her towards a seemingly sympathetic but ultimately anti-feminist alternative
(Gray). Both David E. Kelley and Helen Fielding, answering accusations that their protagonists are either pre- or postfeminist throwbacks, have stressed that Ally and Bridget are fictional characters. Fielding says: "It is v. [sic] funny to think of people in the book being ultimate representations of anything, as they were just meant to be funny. But maybe, it is quite end-of-this-century to be confused about life, really trying to get it right, but not exactly sure what 'it' is." While the creators of these characters claim no specific agenda, cultural critics rightly argue that mass cultural texts are both a creation of culture, and create culture. Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones's Diary concern feminist critics precisely because of their cultural influence. Such critics dismiss the sense of identification viewers and readers share with the text. Dismissing the texts, one dismisses the viewers and further alienates them from the feminist movement. Snitow astutely assesses the role of Harlequin romances in the 1970s: "The ubiquity of the books indicates a central truth: romance is a primary category of the female imagination. The women's movement has left this fact of female consciousness largely untouched. While most serious women novelists treat romance with irony and cynicism, most women do not" (321). This comment could easily be redirected at some feminist critics, like Elaine Showalter, who dismisses the film version of Bridget Jones's Diary as "a charming and frothy fairy tale with no feminist consciousness whatsoever." I am among the numerous women who do not dismiss the film so easily. As a good friend of mine states: "Bridget is us," meaning that she is single, professional, independent, struggling with issues of romance, and self-image. She wants to have it all. Women like Bridget are concerned with feminist politics; however, for most women, these issues play out in their everyday lives of working with and relating to others in our residual patriarchal society. Seemingly trivial matters like fashion, diet, and romantic love are significant arenas of women's daily struggle. Navigating the conflicting messages from feminisms and patriarchy can make many women feel as incompetent as Ally and Bridget feel.
Many of the mass media reviews of Ally McBeal and
Bridget Jones's Diary label the texts as post-feminist, a troublesome
concept that indicates the death of feminism. Tara Zahra reads this
post-mortem of feminism as a problem of definition: "What the right is
doing its best to bury belongs not to feminism but to a caricature of it
created by both the media and the right's own propaganda machine." The
standards for defining feminism are not generated by feminists themselves, but
by the media who oversimplifies the feminist project. The conservative
media, in Zahra's view, tells us that "Women's enthusiasm for
'postfeminist' fictional characters such as Ally McBeal and Bridget Jones is
supposed to represent feminism's bankruptcy, the selling out of feminist
elders by all young women." Yet the conservative media are not the only
ones involved in this line of criticism — so too are academic feminists like
Showalter and Chesler. The "rightist" media and feminist critics
both need to heed Zahra's reminder that the primary goal of feminism is
"to expand choices and opportunities for large numbers of women."
The plurality of feminist voices and experiences will continue to create
heated debate and, ultimately, attest to the strength of feminism. As Zahra
explains: "No matter how much the pundits would like us to think
otherwise ... Ally's popular success does not contradict well-documented
majority support for essentially feminist views on equal rights, child care
provisioning, welfare, education, and abortion." Ultimately, then,
women's engagement with "serious" political issues and popular
concerns should not be seen as a contradictory impulse, but instead as
representing the plurality of concerns faced by contemporary women. Wanting
It All: Ally and Bridget
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